Kissing and Porn
Porn does not seem to like kissing much.
Of the millions of sexually explicit photos available today, a surprisingly
small percentage of them depict people kissing. If we consider how
much kissing is part and parcel of normal sexual interactions, it's
almost bizarre that porn doesn't want to show it.
Of course, porn primarily exists to show sex in graphic detail,
and the focus is most often on the genitals. When kissing is shown,
the "kiss" very often makes use of the tongue, and lip-to-lip
contact is sometimes non-existent. One could almost describe this
as "tongue jousting". Perhaps the emphasis here is to
display oral ability.
Real, intimate kisses, full of emotion and desire are still very
rare in porn.
Perhaps one of the reasons porn shuns kissing is the need to keep
sex emotionless and purely about pleasure. If we consider that the
vast majority of porn is created for male viewers, it may not be
surprising. If porn is an expression of common male fantasies, then
men most often fantasise about guilt-free, commitment-free sex with
women who are happy to accommodate their needs and then leave them
alone. No emotion is involved - hence, the less kissing, the better.
There are echoes here of the prostitute's rule of not kissing, as
it's too personal.
Perhaps porn needs to refrain from kissing, as men may need to keep
their lusty porn fantasies separate from real-life relationships,
where kissing is important.
When it comes to women looking at porn, the lack of kissing is a
major problem. While women can enjoy hardcore down-and-dirty porn
just as much as the next man, a lot of female porn surfers are looking
for porn with more emotional content. They want to see sex in context,
and to see real intimate connection between the two people having
This is where kissing is needed in porn.
Erotica for women seeks to redress this lack of balance in porn
by offering women sexually explicit material that features kissing,
and foreplay, and emotional involvement.
It shouldn't have to be a contradiction that hot, lusty sex has
to be devoid of intimacy.
This site offers a selection of photos of couples kissing and making
love to prove that.